Communicate More
Trying to get over myself. A New Year’s resolution on 2022-January-7.
Some days have passed since New Year’s Eve. Did everything change for you guys because it is 2022? Not here I have to admit, I am still recovering from my lazy time on Christmas trying to switch from consumer to focused mode.
Still, today I had a New Year’s resolution, I want to communicate more and more freely. This doesn’t come naturally for me, I can go for days just being alone and don’t talk to anybody. My girlfriend texts more to my parents than I do.
I just don’t feel the need to talk a lot. The most important information has to be enough most of the time. This laziness to communicate comes with a price, some good and old friendships drifted apart and relatives barely hear from me. Luckily, this got better since I got sober, because I can overcome this idleness more often. There are also more time-frames now to pick up the phone or to write a text, because I am not hungover or intoxicated.
The lack of communication skills is also bad for a work environment or another career path. You can’t say clearly what you want or what you don’t want, or how you feel. You miss a lot of opportunities to market your skills and products. I always thought when I keep my mouth shut, that will be the way of least resistance. When things weren’t going my way, I was miffed. I expected people should just know and understand what I want. Very immature behavior, that didn’t benefit me at all.
But since ditching the alcohol for the longest period of my life, it got a lot better. The gained self-confidence and brain-recovery are making it more effortless to write and speak. I also lost a lot of random shame and uncertainty like Flutterby, she inspired me with the linked article.
Once again, all of that doesn’t come naturally to me, that is why I will need an action plan with reminders on my calendar.
My bulletproof communication Plan for 2022:
- Writing articles on medium (minimum 2 per week) everything on top is optional.
- Participate more in coding groups. (showing projects, asking questions, trying to help)
- Comment on posts and videos that I like, consume and get value from.
- Texting or calling friends two times per week minimum.
- Calling my parents minimum 1 time per week just to have a chat.
(That feels already exhausting)
Now, don’t be lazy or ashamed and leave me a comment.
More of my stories:
- How I Quit Alcohol / The Point I Decided To Quit (My first story)
- 6 Month Of Sobriety
- Beer Got Me Again
- I Will Never Drink Again
- Replacing Alcohol
